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  • Writer's pictureLuna Joy de la cerna

How Will You Know That You're Ready for Love

You will not.

Reality speaking, you are never truly ready for anything. No one is. But you have to have the gut and grit to do it anyway. You have to step the one foot and start walking. Because you will get never get anywhere if not. Same goes with love. You are never really ready to love. One day you just realize you are. And you were not prepared for what's to come, but you gotta embrace it. Loving someone isn't a firework show that will have a big bang in front of you. It will not magically appear and take you off of your feet. It will be slow. It will take it's time. And you have to let it grow. Or else you will just hurt yourself if you push it away or worse, you pull it in by force (especially if it's unrequited). And you gotta know the person first, his/her purpose and whether or not its serious or just a phase. Make it grow everyday. Are you ready to share? Your time, food, talents and skills, your family, your personal space and even your pet. Basically, everything, even your childhood and your secrets. Your petpeeves and fetishes. Most likely you will fall in love just a little bit everyday. And are you prepared to get hurt? Because there will be pain one way or another. It is bound that every action has an opposite and an equal reaction. Little fights and misunderstanding you didnt know mattered before. And are you willing to go through accepting the fact that sometimes you are wrong too? It is not just you anymore, you gotta think of the other person. The benefits and concerns for the both you. Personally, I wasn't ready loving another person. I was friendly, and friends are good, but apparently something else is makes it all better. I didn't wanna rush things and I didn't want him dissapointed if I cannot love him the way you should love. But then again, there is no standards in love, no instructions, no musts. But we were willing to try. And he was willing to be ready for the both of us. And so we did, even though it's slow, it was a stage of patience and understanding. It still is. But beneath it all, you must grow yourself too. That in this journey of love you have to take care of yourself. That you don't lose your identity just because you are in love. In the long run the irony of "Hold on to me so I don't lose myself" hits. Because love is a gift and at the same time it is a decision. You make it work, you learn and grow from it. And indeed its the most amazing thing, to be loved.

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